At the end of January, just a day or two before my husband became ill, I re-joined our local health club. Now that he is so much improved, and I am sleeping so much better, I hope to be back at my water aerobics by next Monday. There was a time in my life when I rarely missed a day at the gym. And now I really want to look in the mirror and see that glow again. I miss it. Seeing less poundage in the mirror would be pretty nice too.
The box of incentive clothing is out where I can see it too. Brand new cute capris, jeans and tops for spring/summer all one size smaller.
You know a lot people don’t realize that losing weight is all about focusing on yourself. I lost my mother very early, and my father’s mother gave up her plans to return to Italy after her husband’s death to stay in America to help Daddy raise me and my brother. The problem was she was not a cheerful giver. I heard about all that was owed her from the time I could comprehend human speech, til she passed away at nearly ninety three.
My grandmother also felt that I had more than my share of luck. I did very well in school, while my younger brother had trouble reading and writing. Do you know I had to do his homework every night? He did not want to do it, and Grandma would be so ashamed when the teacher asked her about it that she didn’t want to pick us up at three. My father was busy at the store, and couldn’t find anyone he trusted to pick us up, so the solution? I did all his homework from first to eighth grade. My brother dropped out of high school after his second day. He did pass the GED, with almost no studying, a few years later. He was very bright, but he had a problem with rules and requirements.
When I became a mother I tried to do a little than what I had.
When my daughter became a certain age I decided that I needed to set her free from obligation. I actually began my speech with Today I set you free. I told her she owed me nothing. Bringing her into the world was my idea, and having done so it was my duty to take care of her. She owed me nothing – not even a phone call.
I know she totally understood why I needed to say it.
My grandmother was right about one thing – I am lucky.
I have a husband who supports every thing I do.
I gave a some pretty cool friends both on and offline.
And I have the greatest daughter who added an awesome son-in-law to our little family.
All is good.
Rest in Peace Grandma.
May you all truly enjoy your day.
It sounds as though your grandmother was a very unhappy person who felt cheated in life.
I’m so awfully glad that attitude did not rub off on you! Keep rockin’ your awesome self, Frances!